So where was I? Yes, I was saying that: I remembered a few months, or is it years, ago when one of my children would excitedly say to my husband, “Daddy look – it’s Uncle Jim Clancy.” Yep, he was “Uncle” to them and it had nothing to do with continent, colour and least of all, connection – neither family not friend.
Then early this year, another interesting thing happened. I went to visit a long time friend of mine and she said to her children: “Remember Auntie?” Then we exchanged pleasantaries. A looooooooooooooong time after the courtesies, her younger child came up to her and asked: “Mummy, is Auntie your sister?”
Talk about a teachable moment dropping into your lap...
Ok, with so much said (& read), let’s wind down - see I'm taking my Auntie's advice. So here goes:
1. Respect is more than what you call a person – although it’s a big part – it’s more about how you treat the person.
2. Respect is reciprocal. However, the fact that a person doesn’t respect you or even goes to the extreme to disrespect you doesn’t give you a platform to do the same – overcome evil with good.
3. Respect your children, teach and show them how to respect themselves and others and that it includes not getting everything they want: “Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.” ~Abraham J. Heschel
The bottom line is:
Self-respect is a virtue – we all need to develop and demonstrate.