Monday, April 23, 2012

"I don't..."

I held myself from laughing out-loud when I read a news clip basically telling people to:
Consider saying "I don't" to living together before marriage.* Based on a psychologist's study, living together before marriage led to more unhappy and/or broken marriages.

I wonder why it should take a psychologist's study for people to realize and believe that living/co-habiting with someone you're not married to is not just wrong - it is sin. Even if you're planning to get married to each other, there is absolutely no justification for it.

Although they are not comparable, some people compare co-habiting to taking a car out for a test drive. Let's toe that line for a bit. If you ask anyone who has test-driven a car and then bought it, they will tell you that they found out more about the car when it was theirs vs. during the test drive not to mention we're more inclined to treat it well so it "treats" them well too. On the flip side, "test-driving" another person's emotions is simply unfair & unkind. You wouldn't want anyone to do that to you...would you?

The best definition I've heard of "Love" outside of the excellent description in 1 Corinthians 13, is:
"Love is acting in the other person's best interest." 
If you love someone that much, you will treat the person honorably and be committed to them. If you're not confident & courageous to make that committment then wait till you're ready - do not complicate your life anymore by co-habiting. 

I also found this article and the comments interesting:


Source:
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/the-hot-button/maybe-its-time-to-say-i-dont-to-living-together-before-marriage/article2403319/



P.S. Today marks 12 years since my husband & I first said "I do" in front of witnesses...

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